You Don’t Need to Go Through This Alone
I have been there. I am there.
My name is Tamelynda Lux (pronounced Tam-uh-linn-da), and I have been a caregiver for many years, first to my grandmother (deceased over a decade ago), then my husband (deceased), and now to aging parents. I understand from first-hand experience the emotional roller coaster of being a caregiver navigating life at home, the healthcare system, and community resources. Caregiving can feel demanding and very isolating. It’s often a lonely job, frustrating, and exhausting.
I am available to visit your loved one or provide more in-depth coaching support for them or you.
Compassion & Understanding
When my husband died, I wasn't there. I had just arrived home from the day at the hospital. But that's okay that he died when I wasn't there. I'd wondered if that's what he would do. He never wanted to burden me. His wish was to die in hospital.
Thank goodness for the critical illness and end-of-life discussions we'd begun some eight years ago and updated annually. And it's okay. It is well with my soul (as the song goes).
(*Note: This observation about dying individuals often passing away when their loved ones are briefly not present is commonly attributed to Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley, two hospice nurses who wrote the book "Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying." In their book, Callanan and Kelley describe this phenomenon based on their extensive experience working with dying patients. They noted that it was not uncommon for patients to seem to "choose" their moment of death, often when family members had just left the room briefly.)
A friend told me, "I'm amazed at your compassion for [a relation to my husband] and how you are being so understanding - it is a testament to who you are! And who you are is an amazing, loving wife, and a person of compassion. It was reassuring, to me at least, that you see the 'selfish part' of taking care of yourself as a necessary self-help action and one that you both need and deserve. Taking care of yourself and being gentle with yourself through all of this is what your husband would want."
I wish to bring that same compassion and understanding to you and help you find it within yourself. Let me help you through this journey with your loved one.
Listening, Coaching, & Education
Support
Support is available for the individual who is dying, caregivers (informal/family/friends and formal), end-of-life practitioners (doulas, hospice workers, PSWs, etc.), and, well, anyone connected to the end-of-life journey.
I have been supporting clients since 1988, actively involved in supporting families (as executive director for a national non-profit supporting corporate families in business) and seniors-related activities (at church and as a community member on the board of a non-profit in long-term care specializing in dementia/Alzheimer's).
In 2017, I fully transitioned to private practice full-time; in 2019, I specialized as an end-of-life doula. In 2020, I pursued additional training in hospice care and trauma resilience for the individual and community. In 2024, I completed the Certified Grief Educator program with esteemed grief expert David Kessler.
How to Start
Connect with Tamelynda
Consultations are usually available within 24 hours, and an initial 1:1 session is easily scheduled.
Clients have enjoyed effective sessions via the Internet using Zoom. We can address your needs privately and safely online or in person.
I'd love to hear from you.
Please get in touch for more information on services, to set up an appointment, or for any other related matter.
End-of-Life Issues, Concerns & Care
End-of-Life Choices
End-of-life choices and medical decisions have complex psychological and social components and consequences; these decisions are often stressful and have a significant impact on suffering and the quality of living and dying. Hypnosis offers a way to move forward with less stress and with a positive impact on the quality of living and dying.
Along with palliative care specialists, critical to end-of-life care, there’s a relatively new approach for supplementing integrative health care the at deserves mentioning: end-of-life meditation or hypnosis which encompasses both holistic and clinical aspects.
End-of-life hypnosis offers an exceptionally focused, unique supportive care approach. It can be a powerful complementary therapy for individuals nearing end-of-life and while not a cure for any disease or illness, it addresses the mind-body concerns of the dying in a non-medical and holistic manner.
How is hypnosis/hypnotherapy conducted? Hypnosis is performed by a trained practitioner who uses verbal cues to create mental images, whereby a state of calm and relaxation is induced to help the patient to cope better with anxiety or pain. I am certified in the specialty of end-of-life hypnosis.
How does hypnosis/hypnotherapy help with end-of-life issues or concerns?
Hypnotic coaching for issues and concerns relating to serious illness or end of life including forgiveness and release of unresolved emotions.
- Not Dying Alone – Feeling more connected to others and to a bigger sense of spiritual presence is possible by exploring one’s inner peaceful aspirations.
- Reducing Pain or Discomfort – Complementing medications, hypnosis can help one become more comfortable by helping one hypnotically regulate how one feels about pain or another discomfort.
- Lowering Excess Anxiety or Improving Sleep – Learning the skill of self-hypnosis, more powerful and quicker than meditation with growing scientific support for this mind-body therapy (Globe and Mail, 2017), can help one better cope with changes in environment and treatment protocols.
- Finishing Personal Affairs – There are often outstanding past, present, and even future concerns like conflict, losses, and disappointments which can be resolved intimately and privately in one’s own mind.
- Accepting Dependence on Others – By cultivating self-worth and self-care, one can gain a sense of control over thoughts, feelings, and sensations.
- Embracing Acceptance and Peace of Mind – This approach allows for creating a safe space with a qualified practitioner to talk about fear, guilt, and other emotions.
- Releasing Fear of the Unknown – It is possible to gently explore intimate thoughts and guide one through a death rehearsal to help alleviate fear.
Support is available for the individual who is dying, caregivers (informal/family/friends and formal), end-of-life practitioners (doulas, hospice workers, PSWs, etc.), anyone connected to the end-of-life journey.
Imagine the right combination of relaxation, meditation, visualization, hypnosis, and self-hypnosis, allowing you to feel greater inner peace.
I have been supporting clients since 1988, actively involved in supporting families (as executive director for a national non-profit supporting corporate families in business) and seniors-related activities (at church and as a community member on the board of a non-profit in long-term care specializing in dementia/Alzheimers). In 2017 I fully transitioned to hypnosis and hypnotherapy, in 2019 I specialized in both end-of-life hypnosis and as an end-of-life doula. In 2020, I pursued additional training in hospice care and trauma resilience for the individual and community
Grief Support Group for Bereaved Spouses
'The love we shared was everything, but now I feel lost.'
Sound familiar? Find guidance and understanding in our grief support group for bereaved spouses. This 5-session support group provides a compassionate space for those mourning the death of a spouse or partner.
Tamelynda Lux, group facilitator and certified grief educator, understands the unique challenges of grieving a spouse through her own personal experience of the loss of her husband.
In this group, you'll find understanding hearts, shared experiences, and strategies for healing. Together, we navigate complex emotions, honor your unique love story, and support your journey toward renewal. Join us to find strength, understanding, and hope among those who truly get it. Your timeless love is respected, and your path to healing starts here.
Group Format: This will be a closed group, meaning it is not an "open group" or "drop-in group," which allows participants to join at any time. Pre-registration is required.
Agenda: A structured session format will be followed.
Duration & Dates: typically five (5) 90-minute sessions.
Parking: Free
Investment to participate: $95 (+ HST).
Register or Get on the Wait List: CLICK HERE
For individual 1:1 private sessions: FREE CONSULTATION
